This sweet family are good friend of mine and I have known Allison since high school! We have a lot in common….like getting married on the exact same day, same wedding colors, nearly the same cake! We didn’t plan any of that either! She and her husband, Ryan, had a few obstacles to overcome. As I watched her go through these things in life, I was inspired by her positive outlook, her willingness to keep going and steady faith. To be able to photograph this session meant the world to me. I truly cannot tell you how wonderful of a family that they are and the joy that this little man will bring to others! He is the happiest baby with the most delightful personality! He wasn’t shy about it when the camera came out either! Allison was strong and brave enough to share her emotional journey to becoming Malachi’s adoptive parent’s with all of us.
Allison and Ryan’s story:
” I knew that I always wanted to adopt. It’s something I thought about as a very young girl. However, I never knew exactly how it would fit in to my “plan” for my life, but I knew that it would.
A year after Ryan and I got married, we suffered our first pregnancy loss. At this point, that young dream of adoption slowly started to cross my mind.I started the journey of looking in to adoption and learning the process of the ins, outs and steps required. It was not long after, we moved forward with the process, However we were still attempting to conceive again. After a long and emotional year of trying to get pregnant without success, I knew it was time to visit a doctor to see what my fertility and options were looking like for us. After several appointments they decided I had some inconsistencies and more testing was needed to determine if I had the ability to get pregnant.
A few weeks later…. it happened! I had another positive pregnancy test. We were elated!!! We had a healthy ultrasound at 9 weeks!!! Then we had to face it all over again… at twelve and half weeks, I miscarried our second child. It was over for me. I knew immediately where my plan for adoption would come in to play and it was what I wanted, what we needed.
We finished the application process with our agency. Our profile book started being shown to prospective birth mothers who would then elect to have us to love and parent the baby that would become our child. It was an emotional and time-consuming process to know that our book was shown so often without selection. But, after twelve times, we were finally selected on November sixth! We would finally have our little angel! We could not have been more excited. This was our answer to our prayers! We met the birth mother, decorated the nursery entirely, and the rest was just a waiting game to welcome our son into the world and into our family!
December second, right as I was leaving to head to the birth mother’s doctor’s appointment, I got one of the most heart-wrenching and devastating phone calls of my life. The birth mother had changed her mind. All I wanted to do was give up. I couldn’t handle losing another child.
Eight days later, I received a private message on Facebook from a friend informing me of a baby boy in the NICU in Springfield, MO. This little boy was born early and was without a family to take hime home once he was healthy enough to leave the hospital. I told Ryan and we discussed it, but we were exhausted. We had no intentions of following through. It was not long before we decided to call an attorney to get more information. The next several days consisted of a lot of prayer and research.
We were able to video chat with the birth mother through an interpreter. December thirteenth, we drove to Springfield to meet Malachi. We quickly learned we had been severely misinformed about his medical status. We had a much longer road ahead of us than we anticipated. Little did we know, he was born three months early and it would be weeks before he would be able come “home” (wherever that home may be). We stayed with him as much as possible and when we couldn’t be at his bedside, we had family members there. For five very long weeks, we battled with the hospital as our attorney was not nearly up to par as we had thought and had hoped. There was so much red tape that was involved that made our process incredibly difficult. Through many prayers of our own and others, battles between legalities and the hospital, and on-going struggle to get Malachi healthy…We were eventually able to get power of attorney and bring him home with us! He was so perfect. He was so amazing.
January 30th we got the privilege of adopting him. I was finally be able to tell people, “this is my baby! ” It was the best feeling in the world! As long and obstacle-ridden as our journey to becoming parents was, we now see that without those struggles we endured, we would not have been blessed with this perfect child, our son, Malachi. ”
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